Hello fellow humans! Let us change the mood of this blog for a serious post. In case you haven’t been online these past couple of days, in Santa Barbra, a 22-year-old white male killed 6 people. In a manifesto that he posted to YouTube, he claimed that girls gave their “affection and sex” to other men but him. He claimed that it wasn’t fair that girls were never attracted to him and therefore should be punished for that. You can watch the manifesto online, but be warned, it is creepy.
There are many debates from this. Gun control, women equality issues are the top two. For me, I want to focus on women equality issues on this blog post.
I think that society needs to change. This isn’t the 1800s. Women need to be treated with more respect, and be treated as equals with men. I am not trying to preach that men are evil or that all men as jerks, but we need to acknowledge that these issues still exist.
When a school tells a girl on a hot day that she cannot wear a tank top because it is too distracting, but a boy can wear a shirt that says “Cool story babe, now go make me a sandwich”, there is something wrong. When I have to tell a boy at a bar that I have boyfriend instead of saying that I am not interested, then that is a problem. When I wear a low-cut shirt I should not be afraid that someone will try to throw something down my shirt (because that has happened to me). When a guy tells my friend that she wears too much makeup or that she needs to wear makeup when he is coming over, that is a huge problem. When we have to tell girls at a young age to defend themselves because we cannot tell boys to respectful and be a decent person, then there is something wrong. When women get offended, we are told to take it as a joke instead of receiving an apology. The list can go on for a while. See the issue now?
There is a whole double standards, that unfortunately, I am only noticing now. As a girl, I was told to cover up, because it would give boys the “wrong idea.” As a 22-year-old, I am starting to wonder what the “wrong idea” is. Are women sexualized that much, to the point that a high school girl got kicked out of prom because some FATHERS could not keep it in their pants? What about breast feeding? Boobs were meant to feed a baby, but people still, in 2014, have a problem with that. Every case about a women’s sexuality is never replicated with a male.
Remember the college porn star? Would she have gotten the same attention if she was a male? When a prostitute is arrested, why is she the only one and not the guys she slept with? Or even her pimp?
And don’t get me started on rape cases. I am tired of old white MEN saying that rape is a form of birth control, or that the rapist should get child visitation rights, or a child custody case, OR THE OPTION TO NOT HAVE IT ABORTED. Can’t say I approve of abortions BUT IT IS NOT MY BODY. No one should have domain over my body.
We, as a modern society, need to change. Stop victim blaming. Stop harassing. Stop teaching girls to be ashamed for being born a girl. Stop trying to hide women.
The #YesAllWomen tag on Twitter was not going to solve the problem, but it helped open a dialogue about these issues. The tag was not meant to say all men are bad, but to “say that yes all women has experienced a moment when they faced harassment.” And if you think about that, the women are the people close to you. Your friend, your teacher, your mother, your sister, your wife, your girlfriend, your own daughter.
I do not feel sorry for the shooter. Not one bit. If I see one news station defending him, or someone saying that it was his mental illness, I am going to kick someone. not really but I’ll do something productive He was a misogynistic man who was not a decent human being. He needed help and a reality check, but I do not feel any pity for him. No man is entitled to a woman. No man has control over a woman. This notion of the “friend-zone” needs to stop.
It’s time to change, people. It is time to start acting like 2014 instead of the generations are great-great-great grandparents lived in. It’s time to start showing what humanity is all about. Teach boys to be kind and respectful. Teach girls to not be ashamed of themselves and to expect more out of men. Teach humanity.
#YesAllWomen